Everyone wants to have a comfortable and exciting life. But your unconscious beliefs about luxury and money can stop you from receiving the abundance you deserve.
Do you feel stuck in a spot where there seems to be no progress? You know you deserve better but you can’t seem to break through. Success, wealth, luxury, and external resources are signs of abundance. The catch? This sense of abundance comes from within, irrespective of your external circumstances.
For example, when you feel good, you attract good things into your life, which in turn changes your external reality. But the start is always within. If you have been feeling a shortage of money lately or find yourself in situations that threaten your financial security, look out for ways you might be blocking abundance from reaching you.
Before we get into the specifics, it’s important to understand the misconceptions about abundance and the law of attraction.
The law of attraction works on the principle of like attracts like. This means, there are NO moral criteria for the Universe to distinguish between good and bad folks when it comes to abundance and wealth. This is why we see the economic phenomenon of rich getting richer and the poor getting poorer.
We see how unfair this is and we hate to be part of a system that keeps the less fortunate caught in an endless struggle to make ends meet. From this perspective, the law of attraction seems unfair. However, there is a deeper reason for this.
This law urges you to put yourself first and start feeling good RIGHT NOW. Of course, this sounds like a cold and unrealistic expectation when you have bills to pay and debts to keep in check. And not to mention the poverty and struggle many sections of the globe face. But the principle of health applies here. Just because there are many folks who aren’t at the best of their health, you cannot help them by falling sick yourself. Instead, the healthier you are, the more impact you can have on them. Here’s how understanding the how helps rather than questioning the why.
1. What are your core beliefs about the rich?
Do you have unconscious beliefs that rich folks are usually frauds or liars? Do you think having modest means makes you holy or more spiritual? Did you grow up hearing adults associate money with all things sinful and immoral? If so, these beliefs could be keeping the abundance you deserve locked and away from your reach.
2. Good vs. evil
It is true that what you do is what you get. But all of us good folks believe that being good is enough to manifest our desires. And then we see less-than-kind folks enjoying riches worth millions and wonder what the hell is wrong with the world. This explains that there is an impartial law at play. When you are kind and generous, you are emitting good energy, which will bring more in return. But being good isn’t enough to draw riches.
Here are a few more ways you could be blocking abundance out of your life
3. Focusing on the lack
If you get a day off, plan to do a road trip but end up having a great time with a few friends at home, what do you focus on? The day you had to relax, the fun time with friends, the laughter, and chatter, or the road trip that you missed and the day that could have been so much better?
What you focus on grows. Do you get paid enough to buy some happy clothes for yourself, but not enough to buy your own car. Focus on your ability to buy clothes that make you feel good and keep that energy going. This generates a space to have more of what you want. If you keep focusing on what you don’t have—a car—your life situation will draw more things to feel bad about.
4. Constant complaining/whining
In a day, how many statements do you make that celebrate what is working in your life? And how many do you make that reiterates all the things that are not working, people who are pissing you off, the government that just ain’t doing what needs to be done, the weather that is ruining your plans, your boss who doesn’t get you, your partner who is being distant, etc.
The more you talk about all the things that are working for you, you will have more reasons to share more of happy news.
5. Feeling jealous of others
When you compare yourself with others, you believe there is a limited source, which is being exhausted by others. But in truth, there is an endless supply of abundance. When you feel jealous of others’ wealth, job, friends, looks, talent, and success, you are cut off from this unending source of abundance. So the next time you feel threatened by others, understand that others success and joy is not a threat to your own. Learn to acknowledge abundance wherever you see it.
6. Refusing to compliment/acknowledge
Do you feel so deprived of good feelings that you just cannot compliment others? Or, do you reserve your compliments for only a few select folks who are from your immediate circle? This could stop you from receiving abundance because you hold such strong barriers to the abundance in others, who are part of this universal energy.
7. Imbalance in saving vs indulging
It is common sense to save for your future. Financial gurus will tell you to put a good part of your paycheck into savings, and then figure out your expenses with the remaining amount. While this is good advice, some people take this to the extreme where they don’t allow themselves to enjoy the money they have. Consider currencies in terms of joy.
How much happiness did you make by stacking away everything and putting off enjoying life? How much joy do you make when you save some for later and use a bit to celebrate life? Joy is an incredibly magnetic force when it comes to abundance.
8. Striving vs deserving
Do you believe that the only way to make rightful money is to struggle hard for it? Do you justify your worth based on how much effort you put into your job? This can be a strong barrier against luxury and abundance. Yes, hard work matters. But you deserve a comfortable life just for being who you are and the joy you send out.
Learn to appreciate your worth based on what value you add, not just through hard work, but through your being. This includes your insights, imagination, ability to make others laugh, and simply your presence.
Here are a few things you can do to make your life more abundant.
1. Laugh more: It can reverse years of damage done by the attitude of scarcity.
2. Compliment, acknowledge, appreciate the good, the beautiful, and the talented.
3. Enjoy the simple things with utmost joy: a relaxing bath, a delicious muffin, playing with your pet can be a moment of pure bliss.
4. Refuse to complain. No matter what the situation. If it is an unjust event affecting others, speak up and lend your voice to support. This is different from whining.
5. Celebrate little victories, moments, and even the everyday moments. Managed to get out of bed in time for a whole week? Treat yourself a little something. Are you a tad bit more in control and less anxious than you were last year? Isn’t that incredible?
6. Share. Joy, insights, awareness, good vibes, and material things.
7. Practice gratitude. Get a notebook and write down at least two things you are thankful for every day.